Co-parenting is full of challenges, compromises, and considerations. No one, not even the most conscientious separatist, would say that raising children across two different households is easy. But I swear to you, some people make the job harder than it has to be by literally refusing to do any job. Recently, TikTok creator Chloe (@chloekhloe7) listed one common pitfall of co-parenting. “When you drop your child off with the other parent, do you send them with a big bag full of shit, or do you just send them there?”
She then mentioned a post she saw on Facebook of a father who had picked up his child to spend a week with him, saying, “All my BM (baby’s mama) sent with him was a pack of wipes, three Pampers, and a pair of pajamas. … ‘Why would you send him with me, the father, without anything?'”
She takes a long look at the camera.
“I’m sorry, but… for mein my opinion, why are you not ready for children? You knew damn well you had to pick up your child for a week, but you had no way to get what you thought your child needed for that fucking week? Did you ever think you’d call your BM and say, “Hey, what do you need while he’s here? I’ll go get it”? … Hello! ? “
“And when I say there were so many comments; protect “This man,” she continued, marveling. And the women. … I’m sorry, but do you want to send your baby with someone else? parent Or send your baby with a babysitter? ”
She states that when she sends her children to their father’s house (“every weekend”), the only thing they bring with them is “clothes on their backs.” Of course, everything else is provided by the father.
“And many fathers get angry when they are called ‘incompetent’,” she added. “You have no thought for your child! That is a very deadly act… You had the means and time to prepare for your child to come with you, and you are still relying on the mother?
“You’re not looking out for your nieces and nephews,” she concluded. “You’re not looking at your friend’s child. You’re looking at your own species. Why don’t you have what you need for yourself?”
The commenter was here for all of this…
One mother wrote: “That’s ridiculous. If she wants it, all she’ll have is a stuffed animal or something like that.”
“If we don’t have diapers or clothes for this baby, will there be age-appropriate food? Where will this baby sleep?” asks another. “He thinks of himself as a babysitter, not a father.”
“I just send my kids, at most, their school bags with their summer homework books and my Nintendo Switch,” says the third child. “The only way I’ll pack is if he goes with his grandparents.”
“If it was actually a 50/50 split, some people would probably cry,” another scoffed.
To quote yet another commenter: “Lord help these dads. understand what it means Get used to it It’s daddy! ”
And the church said, Amen. And to be honest, it’s not just For the children, for the mother’s peace of mind, for them! Because raising children is hard, but if you give it your all, being a parent is a privilege and a gift. Don’t expect to experience parenthood if you’re not willing to put in the parent-level effort.
