When my mom was pregnant, my dad and I couldn’t seem to agree on names. My mother wanted Daniel or Grace, but my father was keen on Sharon or Brenda. (That was in the 80’s.) Fortunately, my great-grandmother recommended “Jamie” to me. I had apparently heard it in “one of her stories” and it stuck with me.
However, not all parents and grandparents are positive about their grandchildren’s names. The website Grandsnet collaborated with sister site Mumsnet to survey 2,000 grandparents and parents about their opinions on grandparents’ involvement and their grandchildren’s names.
And the opinions they gave…
First, some good news. While 69% of grandparents think it’s okay to have an opinion on their grandchild’s name, they also recognize that making unsolicited suggestions is a bad idea.
Additionally, 15% of parents say their parents or in-laws don’t like their baby’s name, but it seems like it’s something they’ll eventually get over. Only 4% of grandparents said they did not accept their grandchild’s name.
For the minority, the disagreement over the name became briefly tense. 2% of grandparents said they had a falling out with their parents over the choice of a baby’s name, and 6% even said they had temporarily lost contact due to disagreements. However, some people take a less aggressive approach. Unfortunately, it is only 9% passive He is aggressive and responds in a good mood to his grandson’s name by asking, “What?”
But 4% said nothing and 8% just lied. say They don’t like the name, but they like the name.
Frankly, I think lying is the best bet here. I know they say honesty is the best policy, but sometimes I think a friendly lie is the best policy. Because if you don’t say anything, your parents will find out that you don’t like them. It’s not the worst thing in the world as long as you don’t make a big deal out of it. But lying just avoids arguments about things you can’t control anyway, so let’s tell a little lie.
Of course, this begs the question: why They don’t like that name. Their answers varied widely and really drove home the idea that when it comes to names, it’s mostly just a matter of preference…
- 6% dislike spell About the name, not the name itself. They are annoyed that their parents didn’t use the name they suggested. Or you’re angry that your parents didn’t choose your last name.
- 11% didn’t like the name because it reminded them of someone they didn’t like. I’m angry that my parents chose a name related to it. other Grandparents set (#GrandmamaDrama); or I think the name is too old
- 17% think the name was just weird
- 28% think it’s downright ugly
And what names do they not like? Let’s be honest, there are a lot of very popular ones (and some that aren’t popular but are totally beautiful as far as we’re concerned).
- aurora
- charlotte
- Elijah
- fin
- jack
- lindsay
- Noah
- sari
- Tabitha
Honestly, if you look at what they’re doing, please don’t We’re also kind of curious as to what their names are. would do choose. Fortunately, the survey found that nearly a third (31%) of them understand that the baby’s name doesn’t matter to them after all.
